Lets face it, I don’t know too many people who pat themselves on the back and say, “I’m so great, I can do all these incredible things!” In fact, you are much more likely to hear of our limitations, with ease-in fact. “I’m not good in math; I’m disorganized; I can never remember names…”you know the story. These self-defeating statements (along with the deficiency in recognizing our inner talents) actually get in the way of our achieving career goals. When we want to discover our ‘best-work,’ the very insight we need to attain is the realization of our previous accomplishments. These accomplishments then lead us to our motivated skills and inner talents.
For many people, however, recognizing self-accomplishments almost seems to work against their personal values and natural personality disposition. I actually had one client who I was counseling for interview preparation, say, “I don’t want to tell anyone what I’m good at. I just do my job. I don’t want to be like a snake-oil salesman.”
I have come to the conclusion that this resistance in sharing our talents with others (& in some cases, even resisting self-awareness of strength) is a critical reason why some people stay in jobs when they are unhappy. The thought of interviewing for another position is enough to scare anyone. My philosophy in career counseling is not to coach a client to be a “salesman”- but to understand their natural personality style, first, and to utilize this style during an interview.